” What and if are two words as non-threatening as words can be. But put them together side-by-side and they have the power to haunt you for the rest of your life. What if? What if? What if? ” (excerpt from the quote of Lise Friedman, Letters to Juliet)
How often have you asked yourself with a question starting with this two words, what if? Some people were haunted by these words even until they die or worst is the reason why they die. It is scary, but it is the truth. Some of us have doubted ourselves with the decision we made in our lives after it ended as a failure while others gained confidence after they succeed.
Making a decision is a risk. Either it is regarding a relationship, career, family, money, etc., You could have two or more choices. Just waking up in a bed once you hear that alarm in the morning or evening, depends on your work, choosing the breakfast to eat and beverage to drink, is a decision that can change the course of your life.
In terms of major decision making, risks would always be associated with it. Most of us wanted to be guaranteed that we will succeed with the decision we have chosen. However, we tend to forget that we also need to set proper expectation for possible failure. Failure comes along with taking the risk but should not restrain us in taking the future risks.
Most of those who failed are those who took the risk without knowing the precaution. They usually put themselves in the position where a high percentage failure will exist. They don’t have any backup or escape plans in case things go south. It is like having a duel, with you having a gun without the bullets, which you know the ending already.
It is important that before we took the risk, we prepare for what is supposed to happen. We should think about the consequences that may happen if we choose this option from the others. We must identify the good and the bad and how will it affect not only our lives but also the people around us. Decision making is critical, so put some time on it, invest hours, weeks or even months if needed.
If you have failed, do not be afraid to continue taking more risks. This time before making the choice, you should be equipped with plans and have set proper expectations. Taking risk is like going on the other side of the door wherein you are not sure what is waiting for you on the other side of it. Having said that, not all planned decisions would have a good outcome but remember that as long as you have options then you could correct the things that were done mistakenly or incorrectly. Do not go back to the past thinking what if I did this or that. You could never turn back the hands of time. You never lose in life. Failure is to learn as to succeed is to grow. Leave the past behind and start preparing for the future by focusing on the present. Live a life with no regrets, a life you will remember and be remembered.